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Tales From Clown School #3
Sep. 10th, 2023 06:02 pmThis is less about Clown School specifically and more a bit of whining about how hard it is for me to make friends "IRL" as an introvert. I rely on proximity, which means I tend to make friends at work. I thought I made friends here at Clown School, but after a bunch of social media posts for activities that I was not invited to, I realized that I'm really lucky to have good coworkers, but I am not so lucky as to have friends.
And it's not anyone's fault. There's a big age gap between me and the main social group, and those who are closer to my age have partners and kids, so they have other demands on their time. Mayi is my Work Mom and also now my boss, sort of, and my department head is a Boomer and nice enough, but he's also kind of a dick and also kind of my boss.
This weekend, the two gals that I thought were my friends went to Taipei to go to this Turkish restaurant, one that they had mentioned before and that just last weekend, when it came up again, I specifically asked if they would let me know the next time they go because I'd love to try it. They also went to this cool-looking DIY mosaic place -- completely up my alley, and also something that's really not that fun to do alone.
I got so lucky in Shenzhen to make friends with a couple of people who I really vibed well with and had very similar ideas of what constitutes a good time as well as having similar energy levels for activities (no hiking, thank you). Of course, that time got cut really short due to the pandemic.
So what's next? Well, I'm going to have to just keep going out and seeing my own things. I have a lot of books and a list of cool cafes to try out (that are not Starbucks). The weather is supposed to be nice next weekend, so I think I'll book myself a hotel room and try to see the old Dutch fort.
Onward we (I) go.
And it's not anyone's fault. There's a big age gap between me and the main social group, and those who are closer to my age have partners and kids, so they have other demands on their time. Mayi is my Work Mom and also now my boss, sort of, and my department head is a Boomer and nice enough, but he's also kind of a dick and also kind of my boss.
This weekend, the two gals that I thought were my friends went to Taipei to go to this Turkish restaurant, one that they had mentioned before and that just last weekend, when it came up again, I specifically asked if they would let me know the next time they go because I'd love to try it. They also went to this cool-looking DIY mosaic place -- completely up my alley, and also something that's really not that fun to do alone.
I got so lucky in Shenzhen to make friends with a couple of people who I really vibed well with and had very similar ideas of what constitutes a good time as well as having similar energy levels for activities (no hiking, thank you). Of course, that time got cut really short due to the pandemic.
So what's next? Well, I'm going to have to just keep going out and seeing my own things. I have a lot of books and a list of cool cafes to try out (that are not Starbucks). The weather is supposed to be nice next weekend, so I think I'll book myself a hotel room and try to see the old Dutch fort.
Onward we (I) go.
